Simple Ways of Teaching Toddlers and Preschoolers Kindness

Lisa Perlstein
Sep 6
2 min read

Updated: Oct 2

“Say thank you.” “Be gentle.” “Share nicely.”As parents, we find ourselves repeating these phrases over and over — hoping they stick. However, the truth is that toddlers and preschoolers rarely learn kindness through speeches. Often, these values are learned from consistent and ordinary moments in daily life.

Why Everyday Kindness Matters

At two, three, four, or five years old, children are still learning what kindness even means. To them, kindness isn’t a big idea — it’s handing Mommy a toy, giving Daddy a hug, or patting the family cat softly instead of pulling his tail. These little actions may feel small, but they slowly build the foundation for empathy, patience, and love.

Modeling is the Magic

Often, the simplest way to teach toddlers and preschoolers kindness is just by showing it.

When you open the door for someone and say, “That was kind of me,” your child sees it.
When you gently hand them their cup of milk and say, “I’m sharing with you,” they hear it.
When you comfort them after a tantrum, they feel it.

Children copy what we do more than what we say. Your kindness to others becomes their blueprint.

Everyday Ideas for Teaching Toddlers and Preschoolers Kindness

Here are some easy, natural ways to weave kindness into a kid’s daily rhythm:

Snack time: Encourage them to offer a cracker to a sibling or friend.
Playtime: Praise them when they hand over a toy instead of grabbing one.
Storytime: Choose books with gentle, caring characters (hint: Kedi & Jake are great role models!).
Bedtime: End the day by sharing one kind thing they did that made you proud.

Celebrate the Small Wins

Kids thrive on encouragement. When you notice even the tiniest gesture — a hug, a smile, a soft touch — name it:

“That was kind when you gave me your toy.”
“You were gentle with Kedi. Thank you for being so caring.”

These affirmations tell them that kindness matters and feels good.

Final Thought

Kindness isn’t taught in one lesson — it’s practiced in the rhythm of daily life. Little by little, those “ordinary” moments become extraordinary. And before long, you’ll notice your little one choosing kindness all on their own.